What’s Your Level of Marriage Intimacy?

Can you help me "test" this Marriage Intimacy Quiz?

Want to find out how intimate your marriage might be?

This is a quiz I've recently created.  It focuses on marital intimacy.

The questions are not scientific, but are designed to spark conversations about intimacy in your marriage.

I would appreciate your comments and questions,  You are taking it anonymously so I don't know your identity.

Thanks!

Rob

August 2025

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Find out how your marriage intimacy looks with this simple quiz of 20 questions!

It should take about 5-7 minutes to complete!

Most of the questions are designed on research by John and Julie Gottman.    Others are drawn from the book "The Seven Levels of Intimacy", by Matthew Kelly. 

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I know what normally embarrasses my spouse in public.

Definitely.

Probably.

I don't know.

We spend regular time discussing our concerns and feelings so I know what my spouse is facing.

Not often.

Usually we do.

We are disciplined in doing this.

I can name my spouse's two closest friends.

Yes I know their names and current situation.

I can guess!

I'm not sure

I know my spouse's personality type along with its strengths and weaknesses.

Yes, I know this well.

I would need to guess.

I think I know it!

I know my spouse's favorite relative!

Definitely.

I would be guessing.

Don't know.

I have shared details with my spouse about my current frustrations.

Rarely or never.

Sometimes.

Always.

I have been married for how many years?

Less than one Year

One to Five Years

More than Five Years

I am willing to regularly tell my spouse about some faults and failures that I have struggled with in myself.

Yes I do this without it being awkward

I do this occasionally but struggle to be this open

I don't feel comfortable doing this

I know the best way to soothe my spouse when they are anxious.

Yes, I know specifically.

I probably do.

I don't know.

Over the past 30 days, I remember revealing to my spouse, some fears I've been struggling with.

Yes I did this!

No I don't remember discussing this.

We resolve conflicts within 24 hours so that we are both satisfied and moving forward.

Yes, almost always.

Sometimes.

Not really.

In the pasty 30 days I can remember being vulnerable with my spouse and sharing some feelings I"m having.  I wasn't angry or frustrated with them just being transparent about how I feel.

Yes I do this often

No I didn't feel comfortable doing this

Yes, but I was careful in what I shared

My spouse has full access to our financial information and we regularly discuss our financial status.

Mostly.

Definitely.

No, not at this time.

I have conversations with my spouse about some dreams and hopes I have for the future.

Yes we do this regularly

No, that I remember

Occasionally we discuss hopes and dreams

When we have friction in our relationship, we always seem to talk it out.

Not really.

Usually.

Always.

I know who my spouse is currently having conflict with.

Yes, I am aware.

I'm not sure.

I can probably guess.

I know several goals that my spouse is working on now.

I can list them.

I would have to guess.

I have no idea.

I'm aware of my spouse's current concerns or worries.

Yes, I can list several.

Not sure I know.

I don't really know.

Over the past month I remember being able to share, with my spouse, a deep spiritual, emotional or intellectual need I believe is necessary for me to thrive.

Yes

No

I know the strengths and weaknesses of my personality type.

Not really.

Yes, I'm very aware of my tendencies.

Somewhat but not a lot.

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