What’s Your Level of Marriage Intimacy?

Can you help me "test" this Marriage Intimacy Quiz?

Want to find out how intimate your marriage might be?

This is a quiz I've recently created.  It focuses on marital intimacy.

The questions are not scientific, but are designed to spark conversations about intimacy in your marriage.

I would appreciate your comments and questions,  You are taking it anonymously so I don't know your identity.

Thanks!

Rob

August 2025

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Find out how your marriage intimacy looks with this simple quiz of 20 questions!

It should take about 5-7 minutes to complete!

Most of the questions are designed on research by John and Julie Gottman.    Others are drawn from the book "The Seven Levels of Intimacy", by Matthew Kelly. 

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Over the past month I remember being able to share, with my spouse, a deep spiritual, emotional or intellectual need I believe is necessary for me to thrive.

Yes

No

I'm aware of my spouse's current concerns or worries.

Yes, I can list several.

Not sure I know.

I don't really know.

I am willing to regularly tell my spouse about some faults and failures that I have struggled with in myself.

Yes I do this without it being awkward

I do this occasionally but struggle to be this open

I don't feel comfortable doing this

I know the strengths and weaknesses of my personality type.

Not really.

Yes, I'm very aware of my tendencies.

Somewhat but not a lot.

I have shared details with my spouse about my current frustrations.

Rarely or never.

Sometimes.

Always.

My spouse has full access to our financial information and we regularly discuss our financial status.

Mostly.

Definitely.

No, not at this time.

When we have friction in our relationship, we always seem to talk it out.

Not really.

Usually.

Always.

In the pasty 30 days I can remember being vulnerable with my spouse and sharing some feelings I"m having.  I wasn't angry or frustrated with them just being transparent about how I feel.

Yes I do this often

No I didn't feel comfortable doing this

Yes, but I was careful in what I shared

I know my spouse's favorite relative!

Definitely.

I would be guessing.

Don't know.

Over the past 30 days, I remember revealing to my spouse, some fears I've been struggling with.

Yes I did this!

No I don't remember discussing this.

I know who my spouse is currently having conflict with.

Yes, I am aware.

I'm not sure.

I can probably guess.

I can name my spouse's two closest friends.

Yes I know their names and current situation.

I can guess!

I'm not sure

I have conversations with my spouse about some dreams and hopes I have for the future.

Yes we do this regularly

No, that I remember

Occasionally we discuss hopes and dreams

I know what normally embarrasses my spouse in public.

Definitely.

Probably.

I don't know.

I know the best way to soothe my spouse when they are anxious.

Yes, I know specifically.

I probably do.

I don't know.

I have been married for how many years?

Less than one Year

One to Five Years

More than Five Years

I know my spouse's personality type along with its strengths and weaknesses.

Yes, I know this well.

I would need to guess.

I think I know it!

I know several goals that my spouse is working on now.

I can list them.

I would have to guess.

I have no idea.

We spend regular time discussing our concerns and feelings so I know what my spouse is facing.

Not often.

Usually we do.

We are disciplined in doing this.

We resolve conflicts within 24 hours so that we are both satisfied and moving forward.

Yes, almost always.

Sometimes.

Not really.

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