Why Your Identity Matters.

Who am I?  Really? This is one of the classic questions that we occasionally find ourselves asking. And it is an important question because the answer will guide much of our actions and reactions in life.  This question is rooted in how we define our IDENTITY.   Our Foundation Our Identity can be based on many things.  It could be based on my...

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What is the Danger of Dependency in Marriage?

I want to highlight a danger that I've been seeing in struggling marriages. It's something that is often tolerated in Christian marriages but isn't an example of biblical love. God's Love To illustrate I want to start with God's love. When we consider God's love, we see that He expresses it unconditionally as an action taken for the benefit of...

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The Indispensable Skill You Need in Marriage

Conflict is a normal part of every marriage. But we have a problem when our conflict fails to achieve a godly purpose. No marital conflict is ever pretty or perfect but it can result in intimacy when it has these results in our relationship. It exposes our hearts - we see our desires and values as they are rather than what we want to believe...

Marriage Conflict requires Forgiveness

15 Things You must Pray for Your Spouse

We all know that it is important to pray for one another in marriage.  However most of would admit that we don't pray enough for our spouse. The most common reasons for our prayerlessness are: We don't believe it matters We don't think we are worthy of God answering our prayers We don't know how important prayer is to God's work We can't think...

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5 Ways Truth Slips Away in Marriage

  Truth is a rare commodity in our world.  It is so much easier to shade the truth or out-right lie when we want to get something.  But are the costs worth it?   Truth and Marriage    We know that in many marriages, truth is sacrificed to maintain peace and comfort.  So why is that?   #1 Truth can be scary.  It challenges our...

Truth builds intimacy

6 Focused Ways to Reduce the Negative Impact of Covid-19 on your Marriage

COVID-19 is infecting more than our bodies,it's messing with our marriages. “How did we get fromsix degrees of separationto six feet?”― Péter Zilahy For six months the world has been attacked by a silent but often deadly disease.  With nearly 200,000 deaths in the United States, millions of others have grieved as they have lost loved ones...

DIscussing the effect of Covid-19 on our Marriage

Marital Conflict is the Key to Intimacy

Conflict is a natural part of human relationships.  But great marriages have learned how to use conflict for the good of the relationship. “I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway.”- Patrick Lencioni As we explore marital conflict,...

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Maximizing Love in Your Marriage

One of the great tragedies of modern life is that we have redefined the meaning of "LOVE" to fit our selfish nature. Today's vast number of songs, books and movies about love, primarily focus on the self-centered and manipulative feelings that immature people have for one another. They emphasize: Getting what we want from that person we "love"...

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Why Your Differences Matter!

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.  It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. - Dave Meurer One of the most common reasons that couples have conflict is that they are frustrated that their spouse is so different from them.  There are many reasons for this. Sexes are different. I remember...

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Why Commitment Matters More Than Ever in Marriage

The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love. - Stephen Kendrick About 42% of first marriages end in divorce when married for an average of eight (8) years.  While 75% of divorced people will eventually remarry, these...

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Marriage only Thrives when Two Adults are in the Relationship

Responsible: Having good judgment and the ability to act correctly and make decisions on your own. So what does "responsible" mean in marriage?  It should include being responsible for my role in the marriage, my energy in the marriage and my leadership in the marriage. It doesn't matter if you are male or female, your attitude and efforts are...

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Marriage isn’t for Wimps

Great Marriages Focus More on their Relationship There are no accidental "great marriages".  They don't happen because you "wait for the right person", "are compatible" or "stay in love".  Instead Great Marriages are the result of intentional focus by each spouse.  Yet we often want to believe that others are "lucky" in marriage, when the...

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