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Articles to Encourage Your Marriage Intimacy
Is your Marriage making a Difference?
Does Your Marriage Impact others for Good? A couple with a great marriage has a powerful and positive impact on their world. Much of that is through their influence with neighbors, relatives, friends, co-workers and the larger community. Yet we don't often stop...
The Forgotten Holy Spirit
[This is an imaginative interview with the Holy Spirit, based on scripture.] Q: As Christians, we read about you but there's a lot more emphasis on Jesus and God the Father in most churches. What would you like us to know about you, as an introduction? I...
Fluffy Coffee?
My wife asked me early this morning for some "fluffy coffee". I instantly knew what she was talking about. It's a frothy latte that I often make for her and which she loves. Of course she loves coffee in general, but something about the extra work I put into it...
Do You use Avoidance in Conflict?
Conflict in marriage is challenging. And most of us have an autopilot approach that we take when we respond to conflict. Perhaps you are the person who likes to choose Avoidance. This response can be good or bad, so let's look deeper. Conflict and Avoiding...
Are You in Control of Your Marriage?
Staying in Control One of the consistent things I've noticed about myself (and others) is a strong need to feel like we are in control. It doesn't matter if it is our time, our diet, our weight, our habits, our health, our money, our future, our security, our...
The Costs of Hiding in Plain Sight
Have you noticed that "we the people" are expert "hiders"? That we love to keep our little secrets? And it seems so normal and natural. It shows up even when we are young. We see children hiding toys from others, hiding their disobedience (now who would have put...
Are you Letting your Past Dominate your Life?
One of the powerful lessons I've learned over the past two decades is how much our past still impacts our present. As much as I would like to believe my "past is the past", it still can show up in my beliefs, fears and expectations. Why Our Past Still Affects Us It...
The Power of Yes and No
There are two common words that impact our marriage relationship more than we realize. And yet we overlook their power to build or destroy intimacy. The two words are "Yes" and "No". With YES, we enter our marriage and that is a wonderful moment even though we...
The Indispensable Skill You Need in Marriage
Conflict is a normal part of every marriage. But we have a problem when our conflict fails to achieve a godly purpose. No marital conflict is ever pretty or perfect but it can result in intimacy when it has these results in our relationship. It exposes our hearts -...
Is Yours an Out of Focus Marriage?
Great Marriages Focus More on their Relationship Have you ever noticed that what you focus on tends to thrive? Yet, many of us take a hands-off approach to areas of our marriage. And we know better! There are no accidental "great marriages". They don't happen...
Truth or Consequences in Marriage
Truth is a rare commodity in our world. Each of us is tempted daily to shade the truth, lie or stay silent. But is sacrificing the truth worth it in marriage? And what does it mean for those of us who say we follow Jesus, who is the Way, the Truth and the Life?...
This Season of Life
When God created the world, He designed it with seasons. The continual parade of seasonal beauty is one of the things we often find pleasure in. At a micro-level, God's perfect design also means our bodies are designed around daily (circadian) rhythms. Scientist...
Struggling with Anger, Frustration or Resentment?
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